Surviving sexual violence has been the defining experience of my life. I grew up in an emotionally abusive and neglectful home in which I was subjected to sexual abuse from my grandfather and not protected by my parents. I developed complex ptsd and this completely shaped the trajectory of my life. My life reads like that of many incest survivors: I dropped out of school and moved out young, I engaged in self injury and tried to kill myself a number of times, I became an alcoholic, I had lots of sex with strangers that I was way too drunk to really consent to, and I ended up in an abusive relationship. In my abusive relationship I was raped, physically abused, and feared for my life. That relationship ended in the court system and I was stalked on and off by him for eight years. I share this because I want you to understand that I take sexual violence and interpersonal abuse extremely seriously. I know what it does. I know how unspeakable these types of violations are. And, after getting sober and getting recovery, I have dedicated my life to helping other survivors. My solidarity with survivors is a bond that is deeper than anything else. I love survivors with all my heart. This is part of why I have written so much about trauma, and why I am constantly working on my own growth and healing and sharing that journey with all of you.
I called my ex abusive when they weren't
I called my ex abusive when they weren't
I called my ex abusive when they weren't
Surviving sexual violence has been the defining experience of my life. I grew up in an emotionally abusive and neglectful home in which I was subjected to sexual abuse from my grandfather and not protected by my parents. I developed complex ptsd and this completely shaped the trajectory of my life. My life reads like that of many incest survivors: I dropped out of school and moved out young, I engaged in self injury and tried to kill myself a number of times, I became an alcoholic, I had lots of sex with strangers that I was way too drunk to really consent to, and I ended up in an abusive relationship. In my abusive relationship I was raped, physically abused, and feared for my life. That relationship ended in the court system and I was stalked on and off by him for eight years. I share this because I want you to understand that I take sexual violence and interpersonal abuse extremely seriously. I know what it does. I know how unspeakable these types of violations are. And, after getting sober and getting recovery, I have dedicated my life to helping other survivors. My solidarity with survivors is a bond that is deeper than anything else. I love survivors with all my heart. This is part of why I have written so much about trauma, and why I am constantly working on my own growth and healing and sharing that journey with all of you.